Assurance about lost loved ones

How does knowledge of the doctrine of election encourage/help those who are praying for lost loved ones? So many times, when discussing this doctrine for the first time, people feel discouraged and even desperate over the fact that someone that they love may or may not be elect. How can the truth of God’s election encourage someone who is praying that God will save a loved one?

I would like to answer your question by telling you a story from history. In the 4th century, there was a very devout Christian lady named Monica. She was married to a prominent man who did not share her Christian faith. He was often very cruel to her, causing her physical abuse. Every day she would go to the church and pray for his conversion. Later on in his life, he did in fact become a Christian.

Yet the pain and anguish her husband caused her seemingly paled into insignificance compared to that which she suffered because of her oldest son. Her mother’s heart was broken, time after time, seeing the reckless life her son was leading. He not only did not share his mother’s faith but would join himself to anti-Christian groups, using his sharp mind to seek to convince others to follow him. He lived a very immoral life. He had a mistress but left her for another and had a son born out of wedlock, named Adeodatus. Monica was not personally able to convince her son of the truth claims of Christianity, but she determined never to stop praying that he would turn to the Lord. Continue reading

Jesus on Election and Evangelism

In the past, when people have asked me how evangelism and election can co-exist, I have pointed them to Romans 9 and 10 where Paul teaches election clearly (chapter 9) and follows it with the notion that they will not hear the good news without a preacher (chapter 10). God has His ends (His elect coming to faith in Christ) and achieves those ends through the use of means (prayer and the preaching of the word).

I have pointed people to Luke’s writings in the book of Acts where in commenting on the outreach of the apostles as they preached the word, it was noted “and as many as were appointed to eternal life believed.” Acts 13:48

I have also pointed out how Luke again makes clear that Lydia’s heart was opened by the Lord as she heard Paul’s words (Acts 16:13, 14) – 13 And on the Sabbath day we went outside the gate to the riverside, where we supposed there was a place of prayer, and we sat down and spoke to the women who had come together. 14 One who heard us was a woman named Lydia, from the city of Thyatira, a seller of purple goods, who was a worshiper of God. The Lord opened her heart to pay attention to what was said by Paul.

Other passages could and should be cited in this regard and taken together, this should surely be enough for us. God has made His truth clear. However, God has been especially gracious to us in that He has revealed these same truths from the lips of Jesus Himself. John’s gospel seems to be especially full in describing Jesus’ view of election and evangelism. I think of passages in John 3, John 6, John 10 and the prayer in John 17.

However, recently I was reading Jesus’ words in Matthew chapter 11 and noticed something I had not seen before. Here, Jesus is grounding evangelism in election and once again sees no contradiction between the two…

Matthew 11: 25 At that time Jesus declared, “I thank you, Father, Lord of heaven and earth, that you have hidden these things from the wise and understanding and revealed them to little children; 26 yes, Father, for such was your gracious will. 27 All things have been handed over to me by my Father, and no one knows the Son except the Father, and no one knows the Father except the Son and anyone to whom the Son chooses to reveal him. 28 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

Notice that Jesus teaches us:

(1) God hides some things from some and reveals them to others (election)

(2) Come to me all…. (the evangelistic call)

For decades I had read these words but I think what I had done before was see these verses (25-27):

Matthew 11: 25 At that time Jesus declared, “I thank you, Father, Lord of heaven and earth, that you have hidden these things from the wise and understanding and revealed them to little children; 26 yes, Father, for such was your gracious will. 27 All things have been handed over to me by my Father, and no one knows the Son except the Father, and no one knows the Father except the Son and anyone to whom the Son chooses to reveal him.

unrelated to the next verse (28):

28 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

Now I see they are said in the same breath, so to speak, and of course, there’s no contradiction.

Its so good to see Jesus preaching these things. As much as I admire the Luthers, Calvins, Edwards, Whitefields and Spurgeons of this world, it is the fact that Jesus preached these things so clearly that seals the issue for me.

We don’t know who the elect are; they are not running around the countryside with the letter “E” for the elect stamped on their forehead. Nor are people stamped with the letters “NE” so that we avoid them as the “non-elect.” No, we are to preach the gospel to everyone, commanding all to come to Christ, yet at the same time, knowing in the back of our minds, only the elect will be enabled to come. “All the Father gives Me will come to Me” Jesus said (John 6:37).

What’s the Point? Why Bother?

Dr. John Piper:

I am often asked, present, and future is infallible, then what is the point of praying that anything happen?” Usually this question is asked in relation to human decision: “If God has predestined some to be his sons and chosen them before the foundation of the world (Ephesians 1:4,5), then what’s the point in praying for anyone’s conversion?”

The implicit argument here is that if prayer is to be possible at all man must have the power of self-determination. That is, all man’s decisions must ultimately belong to himself, not God. For otherwise he is determined by God and all his decisions are really fixed in God’s eternal counsel. Let’s examine the reasonableness of this argument by reflecting on the example cited above.

1. “Why pray for anyone’s conversion if God has chosen before the foundation of the world who will be his sons?” A person in need of conversion is “dead in trespasses and sins” (Ephesians 2:1); he is “enslaved to sin” (Romans 6:17; John 8:34); “the god of this world has blinded his mind that he might not see the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ” (II Corinthians. 4:4); his heart is hardened against God (Ephesians 4:18) so that he is hostile to God and in rebellion against God’s will (Romans 8:7).

Now I would like to turn the question back to my questioner: If you insist that this man must have the power of ultimate self-determination, what is the point of praying for him? What do you want God to do for Him? You can’t ask that God overcome the man’s rebellion, for rebellion is precisely what the man is now choosing, so that would mean God overcame his choice and took away his power of self-determination. But how can God save this man unless he act so as to change the man’s heart from hard hostility to tender trust?

Will you pray that God enlighten his mind so that he truly see the beauty of Christ and believe? If you pray this, you are in effect asking God no longer to leave the determination of the man’s will in his own power. You are asking God to do something within the man’s mind (or heart) so that he will surely see and believe. That is, you are conceding that the ultimate determination of the man’s decision to trust Christ is God’s, not merely his. Continue reading